In most cases, parents are our primary teachers of "what life is
and how to live it." From helpless infancy through unwieldy adolescence, parents are
our main companions. From breakfast through dinner, in the evening and through the night,
a parent is a principal and extremely influential friend.
Much of what you think about life or feel about yourself is probably based on your
experience with your parent companions. Generation after generation is powerfully
influenced by the way "mom and dad" think and feel. So much of psychotherapy
perhaps most of it is based on dealing constructively with life while unlearning
(or better understanding, as the case may be) what one parent, or both of your
parents, taught you by word and example.
The heart and mind of a youth are open containers
for the experiences and impressions of others. The quality of companionship directly
influences not only what a young person knows but what he or she feels
about the world and himself or herself. Also, what a youth knows and feels is generally
the basis of his actions. Yet the youth acts according to thoughts and feelings which are
so often imparted from parents.
The breakdown in the American family unit is...